Olivia is almost 3 years 5 months and definitely knows what she wants. This weekend I took her with me while I visited a friend from university days and her daughter who is six months younger than my whirlwind.
Having arrived after a 2 1/2 hour journey which Olivia slept for 2 hours for I wasn’t expecting an early bedtime – eventually after battling for a while I went to bed with her at 10.30pm she was then up at 7am (6am – the clocks went forward!). This made for a very grumpy non compliant 3 year old! A walk to the pond to feed the ducks (on a frozen pond) resulted in a battle of wills as she tried to demand me carrying her back to the flat from the pond – it also resulted in a very ‘kind’ gentleman telling me that mothers shouldn’t be spin doctors (after I explained she was tired) and that children should behave! Thanks for that I will remember to inform Olivia of that!
There were the normal arguments over toys between the girls but nothing too bad and as they both love imaginative play they had a lovely time together.
Another ‘problem’ I had over the weekend were the small wee accidents because playing was too exciting. Olivia has been out of nappies since last June but we still regress occasionally. Good job I packed plenty of spare knickers.
The second day after a 12ish hour sleep she woke with a smile but it didn’t last after a trip to the shops and then to the playground where I dared to zip and button up her coat when she didn’t want it on – it had been snowing earlier in the day. Home for lunch and chocolate nest making. Then off to my friends ex – husbands house for an egg hunt with the girls and pizza. Before the time to say goodbye and travel home tantrum!
We had a lovely weekend but I decided that it is time to sort a few things out. So today Olivia and I found a Sleeping Beauty sticker chart and agreed on 4 targets – No accidents, Get dressed in the morning without a fuss, Walk when out and don’t whine to be picked up and Do as Mummy/Daddy say without arguing (within reason). Every time she earns 4 stickers she is allowed some chocolate from her stash of Easter Eggs. She also wants a pink skipping rope which is an end target for her.
I’m in two minds about a sticker chart but actually what is working is when she does argue I tell her that I am going to get her sticker and she then does as I have asked. I don’t expect complete compliance but I think it will make for a happier Mummy and Olivia. Plus it means she isn’t eating all her Easter Chocolate in one go!
In one day she has earned 6 stickers.